When you get that call saying your teenage or college-aged child is in legal trouble, a whirlwind of emotions can hit you. You might wonder, "What will people think? Am I a bad parent? Will this destroy their lives?"
It's natural to feel fear, anger and disappointment. However, focusing on what you can do to help your child and avoiding emotional mistakes in this incredibly difficult situation can make a big difference in their future and legal options.
Avoid catastrophizing
It's easy to think this situation will ruin your child's life. However, it's important to remember that there are defenses and ways to minimize the fallout. Many young adults face legal challenges, and with the right support, they can overcome them.
Instead of imagining the worst, focus on grounding yourself and finding solutions. Consult a knowledgeable attorney who can help you understand what is happening and what options exist. Having factual, informed data can help you get a handle on the situation.
Don't dig your head in the sand
Denial is another common reaction. You might want to believe the charges are minor or will just go away. However, these are serious situations. Confronting them head-on can be essential in protecting your child's rights and future.
Rather than hope the situation resolves itself, reach out to others to discuss the charges and next steps. The sooner you face reality, the sooner you and your child can start moving forward.
Further, acting quickly shows your child you're there for them and provides them with much-needed support.
Refrain from letting emotions drive decisions
Big emotions are inevitable in such difficult situations. You might feel tempted to tell your child you won't help them because you're mad, blast a school or authorities on social media or vent your frustrations at those making accusations.
Instead of acting on raw emotion:
- Take time to process your feelings before making decisions.
- Seek support from friends, family or a counselor.
- Don't post anything related to the case on social media.
- Let an attorney handle communications with authorities or accusers.
Avoiding these emotional mistakes can help you better support your child through this challenging time. Remember, there are ways to protect their future and rights.
Speak with an attorney, focus on constructive actions and try to stay calm. This approach will leave you feeling more empowered and ready to face whatever comes next.